When a third of our children are overweight or obese by the time they leave primary school, what can parents do?
I could give you a complicated answer and say, “don’t have cereal for breakfast. Start the day with protein and fat”, but it doesn’t require a complicated answer.
It’s not about perfection in terms of feeding the children and avoiding childhood obesity. It’s about sensible moderation that everyone knows.
Is starting the day with a bowl of cornflakes the best start of the day? No, it’s not. It’s not the ideal start to the day.
It’s not the start to the day that I give my children, or that I would recommend to my clients. But it’s also not the end of the world.
But starting the day with a couple of bowls of Frosties or sugar-coated cornflakes, toast with peanut butter, and chocolate milk, and then going into school and snacking on sweets during the day, having some junk food at lunch, snacking on some more junk food in the afternoon, going home and having lots more processed food, and no exercise. That is a disaster.
It’s not a disaster for a day or a week (by the way, again, it’s not that you can’t have these foods ever). It’s the accumulated problems that this creates over the years. It’s an absolute sheer unmitigated disaster.
I can remember being in Disney World. Disney World where you see some tragic sights. People literally wider than they are tall, going around on mobility scooters.
I can remember seeing a family: two morbidly obese parents with two morbidly obese children. And on the back of the strollers that were pushing them, their children were about four or five years old. Morbidly obese.
They had six packets of Pringles on the back in carrier bags, all empty. They had all been eaten, I assume, during the day. And it was only lunchtime. So, this is gluttony.
It’s gluttony that gets children obese. It’s lack of exercise that gets children obese. Ultimately, it’s lazy parenting.
We all do it, to an extent.
I’m a parent. It’s so easy to stick kids in front of YouTube. You must do it. I do it. It’s so easy to stick your kid in front of a computer game. You probably do it with your children. I do it. It’s not the end of the world, in moderation.
But, we also need to make sure they get out of the house. We make sure they do some exercise. We make sure they understand how to move their bodies. Because, again, most obese children (not all) are not being taught how to move their bodies.
So it’s not necessarily a lack of parental knowledge. It’s parental ignorance. It’s the abdication of responsibility.
It’s the internet, the YouTube generation, the “I’m going to stick my kid in front of YouTube rather than educate my kid” approach.
And it’s the same with the food choices.
So it’s, I’m just going to allow my child to fall to the lowest common denominator of choices.
The world we live in now has created a perfect storm for this childhood obesity crisis.
It’s an overabundance of cheap rubbish food, combined with the fact that kids don’t play out anymore.
When I was growing up, we played out. We loved summers because your mum would shout you when it was dark or when it was dinnertime.
It doesn’t happen anymore.
Computer games, TV, social media – all of these things are now the norm for children.
Thinking back to when I was at school in the ‘70s, you always had one child in class who was seen as the ‘fat kid’. Children are cruel and this kid would have been ridiculed.
But the ‘fat kid’ wasn’t fat. They were naturally ’chunky’. But they weren’t fat. They would play rugby. They could move their bodies.
Now there are 12-year-old boys with breasts. The hang-up that’s going to give those boys. The physical and physiological problems, and the mental trauma that has been caused to those boys. They’ve been let down every single which way.
If I had my way, the school would go and call in the parents and say, “Look at your child. This isn’t right”. But you can never do that anymore. To use the term, everyone is ‘uber-woke’. Everyone is a ‘snowflake’.
People are frightened to tell the truth, because they’re frightened of causing offence.
When you strip it back to that, you are avoiding that one painful, truthful conversation which will change the course of somebody’s life, against just leaving them to this.
For me, I’d far rather cause offence and help someone than not cause offence and help nobody.